They’re better off without me

This is a repost from one of my very favorite leadership bloggers and I am reposting it because these very thoughts have crossed my mind a billion or more times. Join in or leave them be. I have an AWESOME team and I know they are awesome …but sometimes it is hard to resist joining in …truth 🙂

They’re Better Without Me

Step away let others play without you

Step away. Let the players play.

The meeting after the meeting:

The meeting went long because we were finalizing things. It’s understandable, but I’m committed to short rather than long.

After the meeting, I quickly walked out and engaged another leader for a moment. Everyone else remained in the room. Stepping back in, several huddles had formed.

Two inclinations:

My first inclination, join in.

My second inclination, turn and walk out.

The first inclination is a player’s inclination. Give me the ball. Let me play, too. My second inclination, walking out, demonstrates a coach or leadership inclination. I often feel tension between the two.


They’re devoted to our organization. We share values. They know where we’re going. They’re better without me.

Leadership’s role:

Exemplify passion.
Create and maintain inspirational environments.
Clarify focus.
Develop others.
Give authority.
Galvanize energy.
Elevate standards.
Challenge processes.
Honor effort.
Keep out of the way!

In the end, the ball’s in their court, not mine.


About lesleycalvincoaching

Welcome to Lesley Calvin Coaching . My areas of focus are Life, Leadership, Transition and Strategic Coaching for both individuals and teams. The foundation of my coaching approach is the Energy Leadership Index Assessment (ELI) which provides a wonderful overview on your current emotional and behavioural responses (EI/EQ), both under 'normal' conditions and under stress. This is the key to actualizing our own personal/professional and team growth and positively impacting our Emotional Intelligence! By working with a coach you can alter your attitude and perspective, make a shift in your consciousness, and increase your energy and effectiveness. FYI - Coaching can happen in person, over the phone, Skype or FaceTime. As for Lesley Calvin Coaching webpage, you can come here to feel good, feel empowered and join me on my coaching journey, no strings attached just positive forward motion! ______________________________ In addition to holding a Masters of Organizational Leadership (Magna Cum Laude), and being a a Certified Professional Coach (CPC), Lesley Calvin is also a certified ELI Master Practitioner with 20 years of Engagement, Leadership and Professional Development career experience, and would be happy to discuss Life, Leadership, Transition or Strategic Coaching with you and/or your team at any time. Just shoot me a message Lesley Calvin BA, MA, ELI-MP, CPC #lesleycalvincoaching #positiveforwardmotion _____________________ What Is Coaching Coaching is a creative partnership between you, the client and me, the coach! Together we focus on designing and implementing specific, meaningful goals and empowering changes in your personal and/or professional life. Solution-Focused We are always moving towards YOUR desired future outcomes, instead of concentrating on past experiences or reasons for present dissatisfaction. Systematic Understanding the holistic nature of yourself and where you put your conscious and (perhaps more importantly) your unconscious energy, seeing how positive, proactive, empowering change can fit into your bigger picture. Client Centered Empowering you to trust yourself, your thoughts, goals and skills, a coach will always respect your agenda and future outcomes. Coaching is an advice free zone. Action Oriented Together we will set your future in Positive, Forward Motion by setting and pursuing YOUR goals with specific, inspired measurable steps that will lead to fundamental shifts in energy, action and habit formation.
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